We’ve often heard of an expression similar to this: “you look grumpy–why are you frowning?” Do our facial expressions either happy, sad or angry actually cause an emotional state? Recent research points in that direction.
We are told that Christmas, for Christians, should be the happiest time of year, an opportunity to be joyful and grateful with family, friends and colleagues. Yet, according to the National Institute of Health, Christmas is the time of year that people experience the highest incidence of depression.
Is there someone in your life who consistently makes you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster? Do you know a person who is friendly one day but sulks and withdraws the next? Does a family member or friend consistently procrastinate, postpone, stall, and shut down any emotionally-laden conversations? Are you sometimes that person? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, chances are you may be interacting with a passive-aggressive person or showing signs of passive-aggressive behavior yourself.
At Thanksgiving, it would be beneficial to take this time for gratitude. Robert Emmons has written a thought-provoking article, which I reproduce here. Emmons, Ph.D., is the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude. He is professor of psychology at the University of California, Davis, and the founding editor-inchiefof The Journal of Positive Psychology. He is also the author of the book Thanks! How theNew Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier.10 Ways to Become More Grateful.
We often hear or believe that women are more emotional and sensitive to relationship problems, compared to me who are much more stoical. My experience with many clients regarding relationships has not supported this belief. Now there’s research to verify this.